Name: Rebecca Ramdeholl
Occupation: Holistic Nutrition student
Tell us about yourself!: Devoted Canadian, still deeply in love with her husband of 12 years, with two daughters, witchy, slightly unbalanced, constantly trying to simplify life while living with crazy, excessive, flamboyant, neurotic family/clans. Healed myself of many things through food, herbs, sex, and plain old quiet.
What is your definition of what a “wild woman” is?: A Wild Woman is one who can recognize her own shackles and strives to free herself of them with a good ass-kicking.
How would you describe your life was like before starting your journey of being a wild woman?: Constantly lost and searching (now I'm just searching, not lost anymore - make sense?), wore a mask, hid in the shadows because I was scared and not because I wanted to. My voice was always low and timid, now it's loud and speaks truthfully even while stuttering. Very afraid of confrontation....not as afraid, though it's still something I'm working on.
What were your biggest insecurities before engaging your inner wild woman?: What people thought of me. Confrontation. I wasn't good enough, even though I enjoyed doing the things I was doing.
What is your life like now that you are actively engaging your inner wild woman?: Still in progress - but I'm definitely more "screw you!" these days : ) I enjoy things more. My love for my husband was gone through the roof since I've gone a little more nuts in our bed. I have more resilience and more confidence when dealing with my children. My reputation among my friends as a "blunt-mouth" has magnified - to the point where they're kind of nervous about asking me my opinion about something. Being Wild also means you see right through the bull-shit because it's either not natural, or doesn't feel natural (ie. being involved in a shitty relationship, etc). I love working out now too - my childhood dream of becoming Xena: Warrior Princess is coming true : )
What are your five most favorite aspects of yourself as a wild woman?:
- new curiosities emerging about: sex magic/healing, wild foods, smoking/curing food (old-fashioned storage), helping people break through
- survival instincts getting stronger
- my husband telling me that "You're like a woman now" - back story (not an insult, I promise you): I look young for my age, and I act young, but when I get my wild on, I just seem more sure of myself....
- healthy, freer
What was the biggest realization, experience, or transformation that most helped you to start unleashing and embracing your wild feminine nature?: I guess my Wild Woman finally broke through one evening recently when I was out with my close friends from school. Our conversations started including complaints about the spouses/boyfriends. The voice in my head was always quiet, and didn't want to say anything in case I would hurt feelings, or I'd get called out for my lack of experience with men. This topic started to increase over the years. One night, we went out to a nice club/restaurant. Topic came up again because situations were getting worse, and their faces were showing their desperation. Divorces pending, awful separations, or lingering in dead relationships because of the "children." One of my friends turned to me and ask what my secret was to my "great marriage." I had enough.....and started laughing. I loved my friends, but they were the ones who were supposed to have backbones, not woosy me. I told them there was no secret....I always told my husband up front and truthfully what i wanted, what I didn't like, what he wanted/needed/liked, what we needed to work on, and have a back up plan if we didn't work out (no anger). I also told them that they were relying on other people for their own happiness. I told them lots of things, and they were real. They listened, but whether or not they're strong enough to do what they KNOW needs to be done, that's their own journey and demon to slay. That was my entry in to the world of Wild Woman. No more bullshit.
What is your favorite part of expressing your wild feminine nature?: the SEX!!!
When do you feel the wildest?: While I'm having SEX!!!!
Why did you decide to participate in Wild Women Unveiled.: It's a great way to express this side of me...
What is your message to other women out there who are just beginning their journey as a wild woman, or haven’t started yet but feel the call of the wild woman speaking to their soul?: Dive. In. Now! Sure, it might be painful or uncomfortable, but it's real, true and natural. You'll feel nothing but powerful at the end : )