THE RAW EXPERIENCE

A Podcast for Real Ass Women (& Men, if They Dare to Listen!)

Welcome to THE RAW EXPERIENCE (aka the Real Ass Woman Experience) where we real talk our way through the modern experiences we face as women.

Hosted by me, your girl Alexandra Schueler every Thursday — you’re invited to join me in these savage, transparent, intimate & literally unedited dialogues with the people closest to me in my life, where we peer into the chaos and messiness of what it means to be a modern woman living completely as herself in a world that would have her doing otherwise.


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Consider THE RAW EXPERIENCE a weekly truth-telling session, keeping it uncomfortably real in a world that rarely ever does.

It’s like, the talks you’d have in privacy or behind closed doors with your best friend or lover — instead, it’s me putting myself on blast and being the scapegoat for all y’all by publishing my strong opinions and insane experiences for your listening pleasure. This won’t be pretty, polished or nice — everything will be 100% uncensored, unapologetic & untamed.

This podcast isn’t a popularity contest, where the purpose is to get all the most socially prized and famous guests on — it’s actually the antithesis of that.

Instead, I sit down to riff with real people from my life or people that I meet along my adventures, to share the conversations I have behind closed doors with those I love the most.

The RAW Experience consists of both these deep dialogues with friends, as well as solo episodes of me going off about my personal experiences, ranting on things I’m passionate about, or poetically musing on the the mystical nature of life.

None of that spiritual bypassing or surface level ish — all fun and f*ckery.

Music by: Loupo


EP15: SURVIVAL STRATEGIES, NAVIGATING THE "UNKNOWN"

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One of the common experiences we face as humans, in my opinion, is getting faced with times of "unknown" in life.

You could also call it "being in the mystery", but it's those times in life where we don't know what's next for us and we're questioning everything.

While we never know what could happen in any given moment, we usually have a general direction or trajectory we're heading on. However, that can change in an instant if we decide to suddenly shake up our lives or our lives are shaken up for us by something we didn't anticipate taking place.

Maybe times of unknown or being in the mystery are caused by decisions we've made, or perhaps it's occurred due to unforeseen circumstances. But regardless, there are strategies, practices, and tools that we can use as individuals to survive the discomfort that the turbulence of not knowing what's going on in our life can sometimes bring.

This is the first of a recurring episode series that I'll bring back repeatedly from time to time on the podcast, where I share my personal strategies for surviving and getting through common human experiences with a little more grace and ease, during times that are otherwise pretty uncomfortable.

In this episode, I get into:

• How my instincts have saved my ass many a time

• What we have in common with wolves

• The ways I diverged from the course that was paved out for me in life

• Examples of the many times I've been launched into the unknown & what that was like

• Exploring the difference between "manifestation" & just fucking listening to ourselves

• Why I bailed on the traditional schooling system

• My favorite strategies for surviving the ambiguous "unknown"

• How to embrace life's mysteries & sometimes mysterious nature as a whole

• The ways travel helps me to find answers

... and so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy this episode on "SURVIVAL STRATEGIES, NAVIGATING THE "UNKNOWN""!

Don't forget to drop a rating and review over on iTunes after you finish listening to the episode!


EP14: ON BEING TRASH HUMANS & LEARNING TO DO BETTER

Part 2/2 ft. Rachael Alaia

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And, we’re back with part two of “On Being a Trash Human & Learning to Do Better” that I recored with my girl Rachael Alaia.

If there's anyone I can real talk with about the murkiness of humanity best, it's my girl Rach— she and I always go deep into topics that few other people are willing to explore so readily.

One my main practices as an individual, is making peace with the fact that I'm a trash human... and that in truth, we can all be trash humans sometimes.

The true practice though, is understanding our problematic behaviors, getting support to understand our trauma, and then learning to do better as both individuals and a collective humanity.

So, we recorded a two part series on some of the topics people don’t usually want to touch, explored how to improve some of our trash human behaviors, dug deeply into the nuances of many problematic behaviors, shared resources for support and healing, and lots more.

In this episode, Rachael & I get into:

• Breaking down spiritual bypassing 101

• Unpacking problematic memes that we’ve seen circulating on the internet

• The problematic nature of binary thinking

• Spoiler alert: the work never ends & we’re never 100% healed

• Everything might not be okay at the end of the day & how to make peace with that

• The only ways women gathering intentionally can actually be impactful & supportive

• Exploring the conundrum of having dated bullshit about us existing online

• Why it’s okay to be contradictory sometimes

• Reflections on how we’ve “upleveled” our level of trash over the years

• The importance of “being” with emotion rather than “overcoming” it

• Our in-born fear response & why we all need it

• Delving into how aiming for humanness is #goals for us

• Why crying is brave AF

... and so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy the first part of "ON BEING TRASH HUMANS & LEARNING TO TO BETTER" ft. Rachael Alaia!

Don't forget to drop a rating and review over on iTunes after you finish listening to the episode!


ABOUT RACHAEL ALAIA

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Rachael Alaia is many things, including mother, writer, educator, facilitator, artist, storyteller, healer, and witch. She stands in service to those reclaiming their birthright of unfettered wholeness and attends to a resilient hearth fire of our mutual healing and liberation. Rachael practices community-based intuitive healing that weaves together fierce truth-telling, advocacy, earth-based ritual, movement medicine, and anti-oppression work. She is known for creating and facilitating spaces that are both nourishing and provocative, comforting and life-changing; Spaces that honor the entirety of the human experience.

Rachael holds a Masters degree in Education and a Bachelors in Environmental Studies. She is an experienced yoga practitioner, teacher, and spiritual guide, a trained facilitator of transformational group work, and has lived through and studied the creative arts as a therapeutic method for trauma her entire life. Rachael lives in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico where she teaches workshops online and in the flesh, produces and hosts a podcast, offers private council and mentorship, shares her word magic on the inter webs of social media, and cultivates an ongoing community of learning on Patreon. She is humbled and honored to have the privilege to engage in this work.

Connect with Rachael:

Website: Wild-Soul.net

Patreon: Patreon.com/RachaelAlaia

Podcast: Feral Intercourse: Conversations with Wild Women

Instagram: @Rachael.Alaia


Love what you're hearing? Make sure you subscribe to the RAW Experience on iTunes, and it would mean the world to me if you'd leave it a rating and review to support it's visibility on all platforms!


EP13: ON BEING TRASH HUMANS & LEARNING TO DO BETTER

Part 1/2 ft. Rachael Alaia

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One of the main parts of my "spiritual" practice, is making peace with the fact that I'm a trash human... and that in truth, we can all be trash humans sometimes.

If there's anyone I can real talk with about the murkiness of humanity best, it's my girl Rachael Alaia — she and I always go deep into topics that few other people are willing to explore so readily.

So, we recorded a two part series on some of the main ways we can be trash humans, things we see humanity as a whole doing that could truly use reparations, and ways in which we see how individually we could do better as well as the collective of humanity.

In this episode, Rachael & I get into:

• The important of choice of words, language & how we use our voices

• Why you can be both a trash human & not a bad person simultaneously

• How happiness & feeling good has become idealized

• Ruthless examination of privilege, solidarity & indifference

• Exploring the importance of conflict & getting cozy with it

• Our our experiences & reflections on power differentials

• The value of teachers becoming obsolete

• A radical way we aim to support one another that's uncommon in most relationships

• What if it doesn't get better?

• The harm of living in a low empathy culture

... and so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy the second part of "ON BEING TRASH HUMANS & LEARNING TO TO BETTER" ft. Rachael Alaia!

Don't forget to drop a rating and review over on iTunes after you finish listening to the episode!


ABOUT RACHAEL ALAIA

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Rachael Alaia is many things, including mother, writer, educator, facilitator, artist, storyteller, healer, and witch. She stands in service to those reclaiming their birthright of unfettered wholeness and attends to a resilient hearth fire of our mutual healing and liberation. Rachael practices community-based intuitive healing that weaves together fierce truth-telling, advocacy, earth-based ritual, movement medicine, and anti-oppression work. She is known for creating and facilitating spaces that are both nourishing and provocative, comforting and life-changing; Spaces that honor the entirety of the human experience.

Rachael holds a Masters degree in Education and a Bachelors in Environmental Studies. She is an experienced yoga practitioner, teacher, and spiritual guide, a trained facilitator of transformational group work, and has lived through and studied the creative arts as a therapeutic method for trauma her entire life. Rachael lives in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico where she teaches workshops online and in the flesh, produces and hosts a podcast, offers private council and mentorship, shares her word magic on the inter webs of social media, and cultivates an ongoing community of learning on Patreon. She is humbled and honored to have the privilege to engage in this work.

Connect with Rachael:

Website: Wild-Soul.net

Patreon: Patreon.com/RachaelAlaia

Podcast: Feral Intercourse: Conversations with Wild Women

Instagram: @Rachael.Alaia


Love what you're hearing? Make sure you subscribe to the RAW Experience on iTunes, and it would mean the world to me if you'd leave it a rating and review to support it's visibility on all platforms!


EP12: THESE ARE MY CONFESSIONS, I

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This is the first of a recurring episode called, "These Are My Confessions" where I answer specific questions y'all submit to me, as well as some random personal confessions about secrets of mine.

Why, you ask?

Because no one is better at embarrassing me than, well... myself. And I like embarrassing myself, believe it or not.

"These Are My Confessions" episodes are full of listener questions that dig deeply into everything from existential, to lifestyle, to sexuality, to pretty much anything you can dream of sort of questions.

In this episode, I get into:

• My true feelings about diet fads & specifically veganism

• Whether I resolved the issue with my dogs horrible farts during my 5 month road trip

• A few of my weirdest & most awkward sexual experiences

• Advice on getting through challenging phases of questioning yourself

• The experience I had with cutting off my hair

• My views/beliefs on the afterlife & if I believe in psychics

• If I have a relationship to ET's

• One thing I would change about the way I was raised

• Why I don't post more videos of me singing to John Mayer

• Real talk on my career path

• Several of my favorite authors & books

... and so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy the very first episode of "THESE ARE MY CONFESSIONS"!

Don't forget to drop a rating and review over on iTunes after you finish listening to the episode!


EP11: WHAT DO YOU BELIEVE IN, WHEN YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN ANYTHING?

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Last week on the podcast, I did a whole lot of ranting and de-bunking of common spiritual belief systems, including why I don't back a lot of new age and modernly practiced spirituality.

I felt incomplete after that episode, and decided I wanted to make a follow-up episode that dovetails with what I shared last week, by exploring what my current belief systems are.

As I made clear in EP10, I think a lot of spirituality is bullsh*t, this episode delves fairly deeply into where that leaves me today in terms of my own beliefs and what to believe when you don't believe in anything.

In this episode, I get into:

• Some of my current journey with my writing

• Real talk on my non-spiritual belief systems

• More ranting on spirituality non-sense

• The times when I feel most alive

• "Stupefied Amazement"

• Why the intelligence of the Earth is so meaningful to me

• What's innately divine

• The ways in which the cycles of nature effect us as humans

• How nature supersedes all else

... and so, so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy this episode "WHAT DO YOU BELIEVE IN, WHEN YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN ANYTHING"!

Don't forget to drop a rating and review over on iTunes after you finish listening to the episode!


EP10: SPIRITUALITY BULLSHIT & CRITICAL THINKING CONUNDRUMS

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Spirituality and many specific belief systems are causing a lot of harm in the world today.

Not only do many spiritual ideologies completely invalidate the lived experiences of so many people in the world, much of them are completely made up and serve as a means to bypass our humanness.

With the severe lack of ability to exercise critical thought I'm seeing in the general population, I felt an unshakeable urge to unpack the bullshit of spirituality and get into some of the critical thinking conundrums I've been coming up against lately.

And it wouldn't be a little episode without throwing a little bit of shade here and there... (I'm lookin' at you, Tony Robbins.)

In this episode, I get into:

• My personal history with spirituality

• Why I gave up all of my previous spiritual belief systems

• How spirituality invalidates so many lived experiences

• The harm guru's & guru complexes are causing

• Tony Robbins is blowing it

• Why #MeToo & women sharing their stories is part of the solution

• How dismantling internalized systems of oppression is the real work

• Where my belief systems stand now

• What it really means to not be a "sheep"

• How to be a sovereign individual & thinker

... and so, so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy this episode "SPIRITUALITY BULLSH*T & CRITICAL THINKING CONUNDRUMS"!

Don't forget to drop a rating and review over on iTunes after you finish listening to the episode!


EP09: ANSWERING RHETORICAL QUESTIONS IN SONGS LITERALLY

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Have you ever noticed how songs often have odd, rhetorical questions in their lyrics?

These last few weeks have been both healing and heavy for me, so I wanted to do something fun this week that was more light-hearted and create an episode that's purely dedicated to humor and playfulness.

So, I did some research to find some of the most ridiculous rhetorical questions that artists have in their song lyrics (there's a ton of them, if you haven't already noticed) and today, I'm answering them literally.

Some of the song questions go deeper and I decided to answer them honestly, while most of them are legitimately crazy and I crack a ton of jokes about them.

In this episode, I get into:

• Some personal updates & random shit to preface

• Why storytelling is so damn important to me

• How telling our life stories can empty us out & heal us

• The ways I'm scripting new narratives in the face of sharing my stories recently

• Answering rhetorical questions in song lyrics literally

• Random personal secrets about me

... and so, so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy this episode "ANSWERING RHETORICAL QUESTIONS IN SONGS LITERALLY"!

Don't forget to drop a rating and review over on iTunes after you finish listening to the episode!


EP08: TWO GIRLS, ONE BUNK // PART 3/3

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Welcome to the final part in the latest three episode series for the podcast: Two Girls, One Bunk.

Recorded with one of my most favorite humans and dearest friends, Paulette Martineau, from the fortress we created in the bottom bunk of her bunk bed — I feel confident in saying that this series will not disappoint in anything from humor, education, vulnerability, and realness.

This series is a deep excavation and unraveling of some of the most important topics that are present in the experience of modern women today.

The series is rich with some of our most taboo thoughts and theories, ridiculously personal experiences, all time cynical humor, and things that we anticipate getting some backlash on because many of what we touch on are things few (if any) others are speaking to publicly.

In this part of the series, Paulette and I get into:

• Breaking down the madonna/whore complex

• Problems we see with un-consenting submissive sexual/romantic dynamics

• The stigma around a woman's number of sexual partners

• What the main thing we concluded people deem women a "slut" for

• The things we think make a good lover in men... take it or leave it, guys

• What we hate most about men AND women (we went deep on this & it got us way emotional)

• An anonymous social experiment we're conducting via survey (please contribute here!)

• Stories about some of the harmful things we've experenced in our lives

• Why we speak out on issues with men more than with women

• What it means to be a human & celebrating our humanness

• The vital importance of not being complicit

... and so, so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy episode 3/3 in the "TWO GIRLS, ONE BUNK" series!

Don't forget to drop a rating and review over on iTunes after you finish listening to the episode!


Resourced Mentioned During the Podcast:

• Paulette's Book: The Feral Ache, How a Science Virgin Decided to Go All the Way

Women's Anatomy of Arousal, by Sheri Winston

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

• Our anonymous social experiment survey on the real reasons why men & women hate one another: http://bit.ly/2G46ojq


About Paulette Martineau

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Paulette is a Haitian American nomad, cosmetology student, mammal, truth teller, mother and author of an incredible book, called The Feral Ache, How a Science Virgin Decided to Go All the Way.

Connect with Paulette:

Instagram: www.Instagram.com/AnarChicHairByPaulette

Facebook: www.Facebook.com/PauletteJMartineau


Love what you're hearing? Make sure you subscribe to the RAW Experience on iTunes, and it would mean the world to me if you'd leave it a rating and review to support it's visibility on all platforms!


EP07: TWO GIRLS, ONE BUNK // PART 2/3

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Welcome to the second part in the latest three episode series for the podcast: Two Girls, One Bunk.

Recorded with one of my most favorite humans and dearest friends, Paulette Martineau, from the fortress we created in the bottom bunk of her bunk bed — I feel confident in saying that this series will not disappoint in anything from humor, education, vulnerability, and realness.

This series is a deep excavation and unraveling of some of the most important topics that are present in the experience of modern women today.

The series is rich with some of our most taboo thoughts and theories, ridiculously personal experiences, all time cynical humor, and things that we anticipate getting some backlash on because many of what we touch on are things few (if any) others are speaking to publicly.

In this part of the series, Paulette and I get into:

• Colonized beauty standards that are whiteness embodied

• The toxicity of the concept of the male gaze

• Dismantling the feminine/masculine polarity bullshit

• The way we feel gender norms polarize us

• Why we're angry in a righteous way & how that doesn't encompass all of what we are

• How much we value the ability to be opinionated

• The good things about being judgmental

• Major debunking of all things new age & common acts of spiritual bypassing

• How we're a meaning creating species

• The problems we see in positivity culture

• How us sharing intimate stories is a result of us having integrated that story

• When forgiveness can go fuck itself

• Real talk on getting out of abusive relationships

• Experiences with starting to feel disposable as women after a certain age

... and so, so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy episode 2/3 in the "TWO GIRLS, ONE BUNK" series!

Don't forget to drop a rating and review over on iTunes after you finish listening to the episode!


Resourced Mentioned During the Podcast:

• Paulette's Book: The Feral Ache, How a Science Virgin Decided to Go All the Way


About Paulette Martineau

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Paulette is a Haitian American nomad, cosmetology student, mammal, truth teller, mother and author of an incredible book, called The Feral Ache, How a Science Virgin Decided to Go All the Way.

Connect with Paulette:

Instagram: www.Instagram.com/AnarChicHairByPaulette

Facebook: www.Facebook.com/PauletteJMartineau


Love what you're hearing? Make sure you subscribe to the RAW Experience on iTunes, and it would mean the world to me if you'd leave it a rating and review to support it's visibility on all platforms!


EP06: TWO GIRLS, ONE BUNK // PART 1/3

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I couldn't be more excited to introduce the next three episode series for the podcast: Two Girls, One Bunk.

Recorded with one of my most favorite humans and dearest friends, Paulette Martineau, from the fortress we created in the bottom bunk of her bunk bed — I feel confident in saying that this series will not disappoint in anything from humor, education, vulnerability, and realness.

This series is a deep excavation and unraveling of some of the most important topics that are present in the experience of modern women today.

The series is rich with some of our most taboo thoughts and theories, ridiculously personal experiences, all time cynical humor, and things that we anticipate getting some backlash on because many of what we touch on are things few (if any) others are speaking to publicly.

In this episode, Paulette and I get into:

• In depth dialogue about calculated farts

• Why we hold women to higher standards than men

• Setting boundaries with men romantically & sexually

• Important clarification on our shared stances as feminists

• Reasons why we love men more than the average person

• When one of us shaved our toes for a boyfriend

• What we believe real love to be

• Low-level swooning & what the fuck it is

• When to move on if you’re not being valued in relationship

• Getting over not prioritizing ourselves

• GHOSTING, I mean what the fuck

• How our version of nurturing is getting your shit together

• All things boundaries: why they create safety, health, and respect in friendships

• Why when people shrink, they actually take up more space

• The statement “I don’t know” is bullshit

• Learning when to leave a relationship, especially abusive ones

• What makes our clothes fall to the floor in dating

• The power of cutting off all our hair

... and so, so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy episode 1/3 in the "TWO GIRLS, ONE BUNK" series!

Don't forget to drop a rating and review over on iTunes after you finish listening to the episode!


Resourced Mentioned During the Podcast:

• Paulette's Book: The Feral Ache, How a Science Virgin Decided to Go All the Way


About Paulette Martineau

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Paulette is a Haitian American nomad, cosmetology student, mammal, truth teller, mother and author of an incredible book, called The Feral Ache, How a Science Virgin Decided to Go All the Way.

Connect with Paulette:

Instagram: www.Instagram.com/AnarChicHairByPaulette

Facebook: www.Facebook.com/PauletteJMartineau


Love what you're hearing? Make sure you subscribe to the RAW Experience on iTunes, and it would mean the world to me if you'd leave it a rating and review to support it's visibility on all platforms!


EP05: "BUT IT'S NOT ALL MEN!" + ASSOCIATED RANTS

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I originally had another episode scheduled for this week, but after this pet peeve getting re-activated, I couldn't not cover this topic right away.

"BUT IT'S NOT ALL MEN!"

I can't even begin to describe how often I hear people use this subtly aggressive line in response to women sharing their stories of having been harassed, abused, or taken advantage of by men.

Over the years of sharing my own stories and hearing other women share theirs, witnessing other people lay that line down has become one of my biggest pet peeves — and after getting a solid dose of it this week in response to a piece of writing I shared, couldn't not make a passionate, yet education rant episode to unpack and deconstruct the problematic nature of this phrase.

In this episode, I get into:

• Deconstructing the phrase, "But it's not all men!"

• Why it's the most obvious statement of the century

• Real talk on why it's so problematic

• How it kinda actually is ALL MEN

• Horrible things I've heard people say to victims of assault or abuse, in tandem with using this phrase

• Why I think people get so triggered & use it

• Rants on being deemed a "man-hater" when I actually love men

• Details on why no man is free of being socialized by the patriarchy

• Even the good men perpetuate gross behaviors

• Male entitlement & privilege

• How the phrase defends toxic masculinity

• Reasons why almost all men are complicit in their oppressive behaviors

• Ways in which we could ALL be doing more & doing better in supporting women in sharing their stories

... and so, so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy this episode on "BUT IT'S NOT ALL MEN!" + ASSOCIATED RANTS!"

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EP04: HOW TO TRAVEL LIKE A BOSS BITCH + MY CRAZY TRAVEL STORIES

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For those of you that know me, you’ll know that travel is one of my major passions.

Per request and inspired by my major travels over the past decade and especially the last 4-5 months of road-tripping alone with my dog child around the United States, I decided it would be fun to share some of my favorite tips for travel, insights into solo travel as a woman, and a bunch of my favorite absolutely insane stories from some of my best trips.

In this episode, I get into:

• Real talk on loneliness while traveling alone

• Why travel is cathartic + solitude is therapeutic

• Shitty hotel tips + tricks

• How traveling intentionally  + spontaneously is life-changing

• On choosing travel partners

• What happened when I drank San Pedro in Peru

• How to choose between hotels, Airbnb’s + camping

• 48 hours of craziness in Lisbon

• Staying safe while traveling alone

• Travel inspired tattoos

• My hotel room crime scenes I leave behind

• Puking up a “to-go” sticker in the Lima airport

• When I had a dream come true moment of being Salsa’d + seduced in Spain

• Updates to my favorite cities + low key favorite places

... and so, so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy this episode on HOW TO TRAVEL LIKE A BOSS BITCH (+ MY CRAZY TRAVEL STORIES)!

Love what you're hearing? Make sure you subscribe to the RAW Experience on iTunes, and it would mean the world to me if you'd leave it a rating and review to support it's visibility on all platforms!


EP03: THE REALEST YOU’VE HEARD ME YET, PART 3/3

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This episode is part three of three of an interview I did as the introduction to this podcast with one of my closest and longest term friends, and is the most candid, intimate, and honest I've ever been about myself publicly.

While road tripping on the West Coast of the United States with my dearest friend Vanessa, we had the idea that she interview me with the most uncomfortably intimate questions I've ever been asked, as a means to have the beginning of this podcast founded on the realest get-to-know-me session ever — while setting the tone for just how raw and honest I intend for the episodes on this podcast to be.

As someone who knows me better than just about anyone else in my life, Vanessa sat me down for what was intended to be a one episode interview, which turned into a four hour marathon recording session of her digging up all of the juiciest conversation topics and that I'm breaking up into three parts, for your listening pleasure.

This three part episode series turned out to be a deep dive into how I feel about some of the edgiest aspects of life. It's not poised, pretty, or nice. It's messy, candid, and unfiltered — exactly what I want this podcast to stand for.

In this episode, Vanessa gets me talking about:

• The main thing I would change about men

• Three things that have been most influential in my life

• What I think people who don’t like me say about me

• Whether or not I differ from how I represent myself online

• The current relationship I have to social media

• One product I would represent (hint: the answer might be NONE)

• My favorite products (I hated this series of questions but answered them)

• Whether or not I used to make tampon tea

• What my favorite “drugs” are (spoiler alert: they're plants)

• The quality in men I most value

What I most appreciate in my friendships

• The one thing I’m most ashamed of

• Real talk on my very strange OCD habits

• The times I most doubt myself & what triggers it

• Vanessa throws down her “Oprah” questions at me

• My three favorite cities in the world

• The women I look up to in life

• What I’d do “for the dick” (the John Mayer dick)

• How I navigate weird societal stereotypes

... and so, so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy episode three of three in THE REALEST YOU'VE EVER HEARD ME YET series!

Love what you're hearing? Make sure you subscribe to the RAW Experience on iTunes, and it would mean the world to me if you'd leave it a rating and review to support it's visibility on all platforms!


EP02: THE REALEST YOU’VE HEARD ME YET, PART 2/3

This episode is part two of three of an interview I did as the introduction to this podcast with one of my closest and longest term friends, and is the most candid, intimate, and honest I've ever been about myself publicly.

While road tripping on the West Coast of the United States with my dearest friend Vanessa, we had the idea that she interview me with the most uncomfortably intimate questions I've ever been asked, as a means to have the beginning of this podcast founded on the realest get-to-know-me session ever — while setting the tone for just how raw and honest I intend for the episodes on this podcast to be.

As someone who knows me better than just about anyone else in my life, Vanessa sat me down for what was intended to be a one episode interview, which turned into a four hour marathon recording session of her digging up all of the juiciest conversation topics and that I'm breaking up into three parts, for your listening pleasure.

This three part episode series turned out to be a deep dive into how I feel about some of the edgiest aspects of life. It's not poised, pretty, or nice. It's messy, candid, and unfiltered — exactly what I want this podcast to stand for.

In this episode, Vanessa gets me talking about:

• How I identify sexually

• What my “type” is

• Why I feel like I have sexual tension with everyone

• My thoughts on most people being attracted to both sexes

• An in-depth dialogue about my breasts

• Someone who I’ve always wanted to fuck

• Deets on my obsession with John Mayer

• Real talk about my sexual fantasies

• Another meaning of the word “gash”

• The obsession I have with reclaiming words

• How women can establish more boundaries for themselves during sex

• Whether or not I think people can actually maintain friendships with ex lovers or boyfriends

• The most unhealthy relationship I think a woman can be in

• Why I have a pair of Vanessa’s dad’s boxers and almost had a pair of Vanessa’s mom’s underwear

• The longest I’ve got without having sex

• I try to act out my favorite sexual position

• My philosophy on why I think women faking orgasms is detrimental to women’s sexuality collectively

... and so, so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy episode two of three in THE REALEST YOU'VE EVER HEARD ME YET series!

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EP01: THE REALEST YOU’VE HEARD ME YET, PART 1/3

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This episode is part one of three of an interview I did as the introduction to this podcast with one of my closest and longest term friends, and is the most candid, intimate, and honest I've ever been about myself publicly.

While road tripping on the West Coast of the United States with my dearest friend Vanessa, we had the idea that she interview me with the most uncomfortably intimate questions I've ever been asked, as a means to have the beginning of this podcast founded on the realest get-to-know-me session ever — while setting the tone for just how raw and honest I intend for the episodes on this podcast to be.

As someone who knows me better than just about anyone else in my life, Vanessa sat me down for what was intended to be a one episode interview, which turned into a four hour marathon recording session of her digging up all of the juiciest conversation topics and that I'm breaking up into three parts, for your listening pleasure.

This three part episode series turned out to be a deep dive into how I feel about some of the edgiest aspects of life. It's not poised, pretty, or nice. It's messy, candid, and unfiltered — exactly what I want this podcast to stand for.

In this episode, Vanessa gets me talking about:

• When I knew I was a writer

• My favorite things about where I grew up

• The things that annoy me the most about social media

• Whether or not I see myself as a role model to younger women

• What it's like being an introverted extrovert

• Where my strong sense of self came from

• Close encounters I've had with the law

• The relationship I have to my tattoos

• What my recipe for success looks like

• The real story of how I feel about the Kardashians

• How I feel about spirituality & if I believe in a higher power

• The ways my brother's sudden death have impacted me

... and so, so much more!

Press the play button below, and enjoy episode one of three in THE REALEST YOU'VE EVER HEARD ME YET series!

Love what you're hearing? Make sure you subscribe to the RAW Experience on iTunes, and it would mean the world to me if you'd leave it a rating and review to support it's visibility on all platforms!