When You're Being Too Fucking Tolerant

What are you tolerating?

My belief is that women often have the tendency to tolerate, generally speaking.

Women are patient creatures.

We believe in you, in one another.

Some of us take up Kali’s sword with ease, slicing through the metaphorical bullshit that’s being served to us on a silver power.

Saying “NO” comes easily.

While for others, we tolerate.

We stay in that relationship where our needs continue to be unmet, trusting, hoping, wanting him to come around.

We maintain that friendship where we continue to be disregarded more often than not, put down behind our backs, while we remain loyal and trustworthy against all odds.

We stay in that job we don’t particularly enjoy, because we worry, oh how we worry, about whether or not we’re going to be letting anyone down by quitting.

Any of these things could go both ways for women and men — it’s just that women by nature tend to air on the side of nurturing and patient, while men by nature air tend to air on the side of disciplined and action-oriented.

Basically, women tend to tolerate more bullshit.

Men often take up their swords with ease to defend themselves against the bullshit, while women often need to learn how to defend and honor their worth.

This is your reminder: You do not always have to be tolerant.

In your heart of hearts, I’ll bet you know exactly what you want and need.

There is a place for tolerance, but maybe it’s not right now.

Maybe, right now, you need to take up Kali’s sword and start slicing away everything that isn’t serving you. Everything you’re tolerating. Everything you’re giving more patience than it deserves.

Your self-worth deserves honoring against all odds.

So, I’ll ask you again: What are you tolerating that you no longer need to?