This is The Truth About Advice

The great thing about advice, is that you don’t have to take it.

There will always be someone wanting to give you advice — often it will come unsolicited, and at a time where perhaps advice is not what you were looking for in terms of support.

However, it will still be sent your way, sometimes by people who genuinely know you and have valid insight to offer — other times, from people who think they know what’s best for you.

People always think they know what’s best for another person. Where tact comes in, is learning to ask before offering someone advice with the assumption that you know what’s best for them.

Asking before giving advice allows the person on the receiving end to let you know whether advice would actually be supportive for them in the face of whatever they’re expressing.

If someone gives you unsolicited advice that just doesn’t land for you, ignore it.

Or, you could thank them kindly and then go your separate ways.

In the case it feels like an extreme boundary cross, keep in mind they likely had your well-being in mind, but don’t hesitate to let them know how it didn’t feel good to receive their advice unsolicited.

People love to give me advice in the face of my expression through writing, as if my art is a cry for help.

I process my emotions, feelings, inner turmoil, external celebration, and just about everything through my writing.

Art seeks reaction, but that doesn’t mean it’s an invitation to advise the artist in how they express themselves.

Moral of the story?

Don’t ever feel like you have to take every single piece of advice you receive to heart.

Posted on May 10, 2016 and filed under Empowerment, Inspiration.